Do you feel like you’re not good enough? You’re not alone.

Love Not Shame is a blog for anyone who feels not good enough, inadequate, insecure or worthless. These are all signs of shame and are linked to trauma too. Whatever your story, you belong here.

I’m Helen, and I know what it’s like to not feel good enough

I’ve learnt the hard way that shame (and trauma) can live deep within the core of our beings. It doesn’t just affect our minds but the whole of us – mental, physical, spiritual, emotional.

That’s why I take a unique, holistic approach – blending body-based healing with self-compassion, self-reflection, spiritual practices and peer support.

You can learn my approach in my FREE Course.

FREE course – create your personal plan to heal from shame

On this free, 7-session course you will learn:

  • Ways shame can show up (and more importantly, how it shows up for YOU)
  • How to recognise behaviours that are rooted in shame
  • How to spot what zone you’re in (safe, challenged or overwhelmed)
  • Which tools to use in which zone
  • Longer-term strategies to help you heal

In addition, you will be able to:

  • Build a unique-to-you healing plan that you can refer to time and time again
Sign up now for FREE

Take the Shame Quiz

Have you often wondered whether the things you’re experiencing could be down to toxic/chronic shame? Well here’s a quiz to help you find out and learn a bit more about yourself in the process.

Take the shame quiz now

What is Shame?

How do you define shame? What are the different categories of shame? What triggers it? What are the symptoms? And how do you heal?

Read on to find out the answers to these questions and more…

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My blog about living with toxic shame and trauma

Read the latest blog posts here:

What is shame?

Shame can be tricky to understand. There’s no official diagnostic criteria, no one simple definition…
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About me

Hi I’m Helen, I’m a blogger, a small business owner, a yoga teacher, a writer and a trainee counsellor. I’m also someone who knows what it’s like to never feel good enough and who’s lived with shame for as long as I remember. My healing journey started back in 2017 when I ended up mostly bedbound with chronic illnesses and had no choice but to lie still in silence all day every day. This is where I found the time to reflect, meditate, pray and start to heal from shame. Now that I’ve come this far, I want to help others heal too, and this is what this website is all about.

I help people living with shame to:

Realise that you’re not alone, weird or the odd one out (even though it may feel that way)
Connect with yourself
Build your confidence
Break free from shame one step at a time
Read more about me