Do you feel like you’re not good enough? You’re not alone.

Hi, I’m Helen, and I created Love Not Shame for anyone who feels not good enough, inadequate, insecure or worthless. I know what it feels like, having lived with shame and trauma for most of my life.

Whatever your story, you belong here.

FREE course – create your personal plan to heal from shame

I’ve learnt the hard way that shame (and trauma) can live deep within the core of our beings. It doesn’t just affect our minds but the whole of us – mental, physical, spiritual, emotional.

That’s why I take a unique, holistic approach – blending body-based healing with self-compassion, self-reflection, spiritual practices and peer support.

You can learn my approach in my FREE Course.

Is it Shame? Take the Quiz…

Have you ever wondered whether the things you’re experiencing could be down to toxic/chronic shame?

Our quiz can help you find out…

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What is Shame?

How do you define shame? What are the different categories of shame? What triggers it? What are the symptoms? And how do you heal?

Read on to find out the answers to these questions and more…

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My blog about living with toxic shame and trauma

Read the latest blog posts here:

What is the opposite of shame?

If we’re to heal from shame, it’s important to know what the end goal looks…

My experiences of religious trauma part 2 – recovering a healthier view of God

This is part two of my story. As the last post was focussed mainly on…

Religious trauma – my experiences part 1

Religious (or spiritual) trauma can cause PTSD, hypervigilance, dissociation, shame, addictions, mental health issues and…

What is shame?

Shame can be tricky to understand. There’s no official diagnostic criteria, no one simple definition…

Shame, emotional pain and invalidation

Does shame affect emotional pain and vice versa? How does it feel to have your…

What if it’s true that I’m just not good enough?

What if it’s true that I’m just not good enough is a question that I’ve…

About me

Hi I’m Helen, I’m a blogger, a small business owner, a yoga teacher, a writer and a trainee counsellor. I’m also someone who knows what it’s like to never feel good enough and who’s lived with shame for as long as I remember. My healing journey started back in 2017 when I ended up mostly bedbound with chronic illnesses and had no choice but to lie still in silence all day every day. This is where I found the time to reflect, meditate, pray and start to heal from shame. Now that I’ve come this far, I want to help others heal too, and this is what this website is all about.

I help people living with shame to:

Realise that you’re not alone, weird or the odd one out (even though it may feel that way)

Connect with yourself

Build your confidence

Break free from shame one step at a time