About Love Not Shame

Hi there, I’m Helen. Thanks for visiting my blog, it’s great to have you here and I appreciate you taking the time to read this page.

At Love Not Shame, I write all about the effects of shame on different areas of my life and how it impacts my relationships with others. I also share my ongoing story of healing and getting free from shame. I’m writing about my own journey so that you can know that you’re not alone on yours. And if you want to speak to me you can get in touch here.

Most of us have experienced shame at some point in our lives – whether temporary or long-term. I think we can all relate to that feeling of not measuring up and not being good enough.

My shame comes from childhood sexual abuse, domestic abuse, rape, chronic illness, dyslexia and feeling stupid, as well as body image issues which so many of us have to deal with. Your shame might come from other sources – for example bullying, addictions, choices you’ve made in the past, rejection, being criticised, childhood neglect or mental illness – but whatever the cause of the shame you experience, you are so welcome here.

My intention for this blog is for it to be a safe and inclusive space for people who are experiencing shame of any kind. I’m deliberately keeping the website minimalist and free from distractions because I want people to feel comfortable here and not bombarded with adverts or requests to share things on social media. I also include trigger warnings on any post that I think is likely to be triggering (although your triggers may be completely different to mine so I can’t promise that nothing will ever slip through the net). I also carefully monitor the comments for any abusive or triggering material and will warn you if there’s anything triggering in a comment that I approve.

I hope and pray that you’ll be helped in some way through reading this blog and come away feeling supported and not alone on your journey.

About me

It’s always my aim to be vulnerable and write from the heart. That’s why I’m not putting my surname on here, but rest assured I am a real person sharing real problems that I deal with daily in my life. Here are some things about me:

I’m a child of God! I have a strong Christian faith which is what drives me and guides me to get free from shame. I talk about my faith a lot in my posts because it’s an important part of who I am and I want to be authentic and show my true self. (By the way, you don’t have to share my faith to be welcome here).

I love to be outside and walking is my favourite thing to do, closely followed by drawing, writing, baking and watching wildlife, especially birds.

I love to spend time with my wonderful friends and family and have three precious nieces who are very close to my heart, and apparently my face lights up whenever I talk about them!

I’m blessed with some of the most wonderful friends that I could ever wish for. I know that relationships and making and keeping friends are a problem that so many of us with shame battle with (myself included) so this is a big area that this blog will cover.

I’m passionate about justice for those who are oppressed and marginalised, especially those who’ve been abused in some way.

My dream is to one day set up a tailoring business for women, and help them to overcome the shame that they have about their bodies and the effects of having been told that their bodies don’t measure up.

I’d love to connect with you. Feel free to get in touch here.